Hello
My cousin in Johannesburg put a comment on FB today about hoping her son would do the same for her as Sean Davison did for his mother, ie assist in her death.
While I believe that all life is precious, I must agree with her. Working in an old folks home and seeing people with healthy minds and ailing bodies is the worst thing in the world. People who are no longer in control of their bodily functions, people who have no choice but to rely on others for the most basic needs of cleanliness and feeding. There is no dignity in dying in a room, where there is no love or compassion.
The reality of the old age home business is for the bed to be occupied, this is the same in any institutional environment. The fact that Sean Davison's mother wanted to die at home (at 83 years of age and riddled with cancer) is a very normal and dignified thing to want. Isn't it the way we'd all love to go, happy, and warm in our own homes surrounded by the things and people we love?
I am sure all the pro-lifers out there are saying how can you be a Christian and believe in euthanasia or even abortion? Well it's very easy to justify actually, the greatest gift we were given by God is free-will, the power to choose and make decisions about our lives.
While I personally do not believe in abortion, I understand the need for such a procedure, and in all honesty as a Christian who am I to judge the choices of another?
Also as a Christian I believe that I should have the choice to die in my own way, with a dignity and I have spoken to Rob about what I would want if something so bad happened that I would be unable to wash, feed or toilet myself (regardless of my age).
My only hope though is that as hard as that decision would be for the ones you love, there would be some law allowing them to assist you without fear of being tried for murder. Someone who loves you, and is willing to end your life regardless of the penalty is a very brave someone and I believe that since God is a good and gracious Father who loves us, this most selfless act can only ever be forgiven.
In love and light.
Friday, 25 November 2011
Wednesday, 23 November 2011
It's all about family
Hello Again
I just needed to share this with you. Rob went for lunch at Kieran's school today (I went the last time) so after eating lunch Kieran asks Rob if he will fetch him, Rob says no because he is going to fetch Cheyenne on her bicycle - something I refuse to do. Anyway he says to him that I will fetch him as usual, and he says okay and he also says tell Mum I love her.
So Rob duly tells me that my son loves me and I say to him as I have often done that Kieran will NEVER really understand how much he is loved. He will never know the extent to which he is loved, because after losing Jonathan and then having him born early and in Neonatal ICU for 6 weeks, I felt as though a huge of piece of my soul was lying in that incubator with him. I got up early everyday to be at the hospital for his 6am feed, Rob would come straight from work and we'd stay so we could do his 9pm feed, and we were just settling into an acceptance of what our lives had become, watching our son grow and get stronger but his little lungs just not getting him enough oxygen.
Then miraculously one day I go into the unit and he is lying in an open cot, away from the incubator that had been his bed for 6 weeks, and I hear the fabulous words that he is off all oxygen and come home.
Then 2 days short of a year later we are blessed with a big, beautiful and perfectly healthy little girl. She is loved as much as Kieran but there is always in the back of my mind the fact that had it not been for a fabulous team of doctors and nurses we might never have gotten to know Kieran and he like our Jonathan may have been lost to us forever.
So today I am grateful for my family, two beautiful children in this realm, one, an angel living in my heart, my husband who's proved how strong our love really is by always being there. Then of course are the rest my wonderful mother and amazing father, my darling sister and beautiful girls. My brothers so weird (or should that be eccentric?) I love them all and even though most of them are 11000 miles away, they are all with me right here, right now as I write.
In love and light.
I just needed to share this with you. Rob went for lunch at Kieran's school today (I went the last time) so after eating lunch Kieran asks Rob if he will fetch him, Rob says no because he is going to fetch Cheyenne on her bicycle - something I refuse to do. Anyway he says to him that I will fetch him as usual, and he says okay and he also says tell Mum I love her.
So Rob duly tells me that my son loves me and I say to him as I have often done that Kieran will NEVER really understand how much he is loved. He will never know the extent to which he is loved, because after losing Jonathan and then having him born early and in Neonatal ICU for 6 weeks, I felt as though a huge of piece of my soul was lying in that incubator with him. I got up early everyday to be at the hospital for his 6am feed, Rob would come straight from work and we'd stay so we could do his 9pm feed, and we were just settling into an acceptance of what our lives had become, watching our son grow and get stronger but his little lungs just not getting him enough oxygen.
Then miraculously one day I go into the unit and he is lying in an open cot, away from the incubator that had been his bed for 6 weeks, and I hear the fabulous words that he is off all oxygen and come home.
Then 2 days short of a year later we are blessed with a big, beautiful and perfectly healthy little girl. She is loved as much as Kieran but there is always in the back of my mind the fact that had it not been for a fabulous team of doctors and nurses we might never have gotten to know Kieran and he like our Jonathan may have been lost to us forever.
So today I am grateful for my family, two beautiful children in this realm, one, an angel living in my heart, my husband who's proved how strong our love really is by always being there. Then of course are the rest my wonderful mother and amazing father, my darling sister and beautiful girls. My brothers so weird (or should that be eccentric?) I love them all and even though most of them are 11000 miles away, they are all with me right here, right now as I write.
In love and light.
Monday, 21 November 2011
It's all about faith
Well hello again
It's been a while since I decided to actually write anything and today seemed like a good time to try. In the last few weeks I have started my new job, which is going really great, Rob has survived the dreaded retrenchment process once again. I'm hoping this is because he is a diligent, and loyal worker who in all honesty has NEVER called in sick.
Also I have left my part time job and actually managed to sit in church yesterday and as usual the message seemed to be directed at me. This seems to happen more often than not, and since I don't believe that coincidences occur, it must mean that I am hearing what I need to hear to confirm my faith.
Those of you who know me, know that I go to church because being in a foreign country with no immediate (my own) family around me, it allows me a sense of community and family.
So yesterday I was told to get off the fence, choose to live in faith as a Christian or not but either way make a decision. I was then lucky enough to get to chat to one of the church elders and mentioned that the message seemed just for me and we chatted and then we prayed and it is amazing, after a few basic yet powerful words I know that once again my faith is secure.
I have realised that faith like everything else that is good, needs to be nurtured, it needs to be reinforced and fed everyday.
Zig Ziglar says that motivation is like bathing you need to do it daily, well so is faith. Today I choose to feed my faith. I have said a little prayer I am announcing to all that I am a Christian and proud and I am no longer hiding my light under a bushel.
It's also great that I have come to this realisation at a time of the year when we can't help feeling happy and joyous, so regardless of whether you are a Christian or not get ready for a season on love and joy and hopefully a full renewing of your faith in whatever it is you choose to believe.
In love and light
It's been a while since I decided to actually write anything and today seemed like a good time to try. In the last few weeks I have started my new job, which is going really great, Rob has survived the dreaded retrenchment process once again. I'm hoping this is because he is a diligent, and loyal worker who in all honesty has NEVER called in sick.
Also I have left my part time job and actually managed to sit in church yesterday and as usual the message seemed to be directed at me. This seems to happen more often than not, and since I don't believe that coincidences occur, it must mean that I am hearing what I need to hear to confirm my faith.
Those of you who know me, know that I go to church because being in a foreign country with no immediate (my own) family around me, it allows me a sense of community and family.
So yesterday I was told to get off the fence, choose to live in faith as a Christian or not but either way make a decision. I was then lucky enough to get to chat to one of the church elders and mentioned that the message seemed just for me and we chatted and then we prayed and it is amazing, after a few basic yet powerful words I know that once again my faith is secure.
I have realised that faith like everything else that is good, needs to be nurtured, it needs to be reinforced and fed everyday.
Zig Ziglar says that motivation is like bathing you need to do it daily, well so is faith. Today I choose to feed my faith. I have said a little prayer I am announcing to all that I am a Christian and proud and I am no longer hiding my light under a bushel.
It's also great that I have come to this realisation at a time of the year when we can't help feeling happy and joyous, so regardless of whether you are a Christian or not get ready for a season on love and joy and hopefully a full renewing of your faith in whatever it is you choose to believe.
In love and light
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